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What do you see in the video? What does it mean to you? Do you see any characters, or a plot? Most people see:

  • The oblong shape as a room with a door
  • The circle and smaller triangle are friends or related
  • The larger triangle is aggressive towards them

A typical plot line is:

The larger triangle hides in the room, perhaps awaiting the other two…?

When they arrive, the larger triangle confronts the smaller triangle, and the circle hides in the room, afraid

The larger triangle is aggressive towards the smaller triangle, and the circle comes to the door to see what is going on

The circle distracts the larger triangle, allowing the smaller triangle to escape round the side of the building

The circle goes back in the room and closes the door

The larger triangle, no longer able to see the smaller triangle, goes to the room, opens the door, and enters; the circle moves to the farthest corner out of the way. The larger triangle closes the door

The circle, trapped, panics; the larger triangle is between the circle and the door. Meanwhile the smaller triangle creeps up the outside of the building

The smaller triangle opens the door, offering a means of escape to the circle, who takes it

The smaller triangle slams the door shut, with the larger triangle inside; the smaller triangle and circle celebrate

The larger triangle forces the door open, and the smaller triangle and circle flee, and a chase ensues. The smaller triangle and circle stick together and escape

The larger triangle, furious, takes its temper out on the building, and smashes it up

Of course all this is the meaning I’ve given to the video. They are just shapes, being moved. There is not necessarily any meaning attached. But to quote Richard Bandler, “Man is a meaning making machine”: we are all hard wired to give meaning to anything we experience; to interpret it. Two really important things follow from this:

  • Firstly, the meaning we give may not be true; it may be, literally, made up
  • The meaning we give may not be what someone else gives.

Most events are open to interpretation. For a really great example of this, have a read of GT Allison’s book, Essence of Decision, in which he looks at a familiar event – the Cuban Missile Crisis – from 3 different perspectives – each of which is totally compelling. Firstly, the rational perspective, based on the Government as single rational actor; secondly the bureaucratic perspective, where the decisions made were essentially the result of automatic, conventional and rule bound procedures – also convincing; and thirdly, the personal political perspective, where the decisions were essentially the outcomes of the key people involved – also persuasive. And if you are really interested, then watch the movie ‘Thirteen Days’, which is a dramatic reconstruction of the crisis, with Kevin Costner as the lead as President Kennedy.


What do you see in the video?

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We are historically and culturally conditioned to still see men in higher prestige and technical roles – and women in carer roles. Think of a nurse – what gender? Think of a pilot – what gender?

The whole text or speech is male-centric. As a result your mind gets unconsciously dominated by a male perspective, encouraging you unconsciously to work on male-focused solutions…

Did you notice the story was labelled ‘The Problem’? Technically there is no problem. The answer is the easiest and best fit available. But, again perhaps unconsciously, if we are encouraged to think of something as ‘a problem’, we may not see the ‘obvious’ solution. For example, if we are going to have a ‘difficult meeting’ later in the day, then it is more likely the meeting will be difficult, because we have assumed that’s how it will be…


Can you find a solution to the problem?


If not, this might help you understand why...

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Some people see a native American with a headdress; others see an Inuit entering a cave. Some can see both, some only one. But once you have ‘made sense’ of the image, would you typically look for any other meaning or interpretation…? Doubtful – once you have made sense of it, your MIND is SET…

So two people may each think they are right, because they can make sense of the situation or experience…yet their interpretations are different from each other. But because we have given what we see A meaning, we think it is THE meaning, that is, the only one, the one that everyone will see. And notice how questions such as ‘does that make sense to you?’ doesn’t help, because the chances are it will make sense – but not necessarily the same sense. This can only be resolved by sharing how you each see things. So our recommendation is this: if it’s important to be sure others interpret something the way you do, then you need to ask these two questions: firstly – “can you tell me how this looks, or seems, to you?”, and then followed by “can I tell you how it looks or seems to me?”. That way you will all be clear about how each of you interpret the situation, and ideally identify then resolve any differences…


What do you see in this picture?


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There are three categories of people listed here: a Manchester United supporter; a buddhist; and a real ale drinker. Before you reveal each, consider if an image has formed in your mind, and with it, perhaps an opinion. Now hover over or click on each label – is the image what you expected?

This is the issue of labelling, and is a common problem with perception. What we initially see in or about another person can easily create an assumption about how they actually are – which may not be accurate. Have you ever made generalised assumptions about a person, because they seem to belong to a certain group, or fit a label?

The truth is, you don’t know anything really about them, in any detail. You just have the label. But this might be enough to fast track you through this 3 step approach: because..then...so…

“Because they are………then they must be……..so I’m………”

For example:

“Because they are a real ale fan, they must be interested in boozing, and getting blotto, so I’m not interested in them”

All of which is a set of assumptions, based on a single label.

To put this in reverse, think of 3 labels that would apply to you – choose them yourself, or ask friends to choose them for you.

Do these simple, often one-word, descriptions, define who you are, in all your complexity?


Perception & Labelling

Manchester United football fan

Manchester United football fan

Buddhist

Buddhist

‘real ale’ fan

‘real ale’ fan

Seeing just one part of someone...

 ...can make us think that’s all they are

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